Both male and women often have conflict in their relationship. Different sex and gender, same to the roles and status in society always make men and women feel uncomfortable when communicate.
You Just Don't Understand by Deborah Tannen, show clearly how women and men found difficulty when they get to the time of conversation. Tannen, a professor of sociolinguistic at Georgetown University and the author of this book, drew interest in women and men communication. She thus researched and studied about their communication beginning with childhood boys and girls learn different approaches to language and communication. In her research, Tannen believed: "that the differences between the communication styles of men and women go far beyond mere socialization, and appear to be inherent in the basic make up of each sex".
In male conversation, they usually talk about thing that they would do together. It was often started from harder to easily, come by with topics randomly jumping around. Tannen notes that men's conversations are focused on giving solutions with focusing on maintaining personal status. Men are also noted as seeking to establish or maintain dominance, as well as status, in their conversation manner. Though when talking with women, men didn’t share their feeling, they often gave advice and draw out solution. However, that is not what women want. Women, often look for intimacy and like to share their story and feeling. 
Tannen notes that women talk to their friends openly, face to face, with connection and intimacy as the primary goals/reasons for communication. Women are then noted as being more equal minded in conversation, needing all participants to contribute to the conversation before decisions are made.
I think that is when they have conflict in their communication. Both men and women communication seem very different because of their style and understanding.
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